When Decluttering Creates Guilt

Guilt? What about decluttering guilt??

So you’ve decided to declutter; Great!!

I’m here for you every step of the way. You’ve already created a collection of things surplus to your needs and wants in your home.

But sadly you haven’t been able to find a home for them or work out how recycle them. You are faced with an overwhelming sense of guilt as you are left with no other options but to bin those items.

Now what?

At that point its time to accept that it is going to end up in the rubbish. This is honestly the BIGGEST hurdle I have faced when it comes to decluttering myself. It took me a really long time to move past the point of refusing to throw something out that I ‘could use’ just to keep it out of landfill.

First up – We need to acknowledge that when we bring an item home we have already accepted the use of those resources. Their destination was already decided the moment they were manufactured and then sold. We as the consumer only delay this fact. One an item has passed its purpose sometimes we just have to accept this fact and instead make a conscious decision to do better next time.

You might be tempted to just keep that item – maybe you will use it.
But here is the thing. When our mental, emotional and physical state is effected by clutter we are not actually in our best state of mind. We are actually far more helpful to make change when we free up our energy, space and our mind. You need to let the guilt go and remind yourself that lifting weight off your shoulders is HOW you help your family and then your community, workplace and environment.

I want to talk about another type of guilt that you might face in this process. That guilt is money guilt… You know that thought that pops up and reminds you how much you spent on that item that you are about to sell, donate or put in the bin? Yep – that feeling of guilt that reminds you that there was once monetary value attached to that item holds you BACK from finding abundance and joy in every day life.

When we declutter we will be letting things go that once cost us money. That is fact.

We trade our time for money. That is an exchange of energy.
And then we exchange that money for goods or services. That is also an exchange of energy.

The money was gone when you made that purchase. You now get to decide whether that item still belongs in your space. Cassandra Aarssen says, ” You are not any richer because you store this item in your home, and you are not any poorer if you let it go”. I find this quote really helpful. The money is spent, the energy is exchanged. It is now up us to work on our home feeling like a refuge; not somewhere we store goods we feel guilty about passing on due to their cost (or a feeling of obligation that you SHOULD keep them – but that is another discussion on guilt for another day).

One really helpful way to move past this guilt is actually to bless others.

You can opt to sell an item and get back a portion of what you spent knowing that you are passing on an item to another person at a cost that is affordable to them. Sometimes selling things second hand actually blesses people with access to an item they could not have afforded otherwise.

The other way to bless others with our abundance is to gift it to them. If you are feeling guilt over the money you once spent on an item you might wrestle with this, but I promise that gifting people from the abundance that we have is good for both the gifter and the receiver.

If guilt is still a struggle I want to encourage you to come to join my new Membership Community. This is a topic that we will be talking about and we will talk more about overcoming this. If this sounds like a place you want to be please check out the information page

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What to Do with Decluttered Stuff?

Over the last 2 weeks I shared about how to know if you have too much stuff – and how to set up your intention so you have a focus to declutter OR clean OR Tidy.

This time I want to talk about what to DO with the stuff that you are removing from your home.

First up think about if this is an item that you want to sell or donate; or if you need to admit that it is at the end of its useful life and is now rubbish.

When deciding whether to sell or not consider the second hand value of the item. I set myself a $$ limit of what I will spend the effort on listing for sale. At the moment my absolute limit is $10-15 and I will not list anything for sale that is under that value – however this figure changes depending on where we are financially at the time.

If you have decided to sell an item my current go-to platform is Facebook Marketplace. However you can also look at specific sales groups, Gumtree, ebay and many other platforms. Take some time to Youtube how to take good photos with your phone as this will increase your success.

There are a huge number of places to send the items you have decided to donate. At this point in time most second hand stores are not accepting donations across the country so I have tried to include as many other options as possible.
Please ensure you communicate with your local facilities and find out if they can take donations right now. Here are some ideas.

Expired medicines and first aid items – first offer to Vet clinics. What medicines they don’t want can go to the pharmacy for disposal.

Stationary – community centres, after school programs, craft/art studios or schools.
Books – Buy Nothing Group, local Pop-up Library
Magazines – Buy Nothing group, nursing homes, craft groups.

Old textiles – MANRAGS, H&M, local boomerang bag group or local tradies who use rags.
New textiles – local Buy Nothing Group, Women’s Shelters or local Facebook groups. Animal shelters/rescues may be able to take blankets, towels and sheets.

Small Electrical items – Buy Nothing Group, Office works, Library, council, Aldi
Batteries and lightbulbs – local council, Aldi
White Goods, Computers etc – Buy Nothing Group, metal recycler, PlanetArk, Local Council
Metal (like broken saucepans, screw, padlocks, keys, binding, bottles etc) – metal recycler

Mugs – see if any funky cafes have a borrow a mug program you could donate to
Broken ceramics – local artist (ask on a local facebook group for any contacts who might be interested)

Tools – Mens Shed, Tool Library, Repair Café
Plants – local permaculture group

My aim is always to send our surplus somewhere it is wanted and/or useful. I don’t want to see our clutter become someone else’s clutter. So with everything that leaves our home I spend a little time searching for the right place to offer it. Next week I’ll talk more about what comes next when you CANT rehome or recycle an item.

Sometimes though you feel like you are drowning and finding the place to start still feels impossible doesn’t it? I’d like to help you find that start and share some tips to help you overcome that overwhelm you feel.

Come along at 10:30am on Wednesday 29th of July for a FREE webinar as I share 5 tips to Reduce the Overwhelm of the STUFF in your home. I’d love to have you there – just click this link to register (and you will get a copy of the replay if you can’t make it live!)

I’ve got some exciting news! Coming August 3rd I will be launching a membership that will actually end up replacing most of my existing modules and courses!!!

Over the last months, I’ve really been thinking about how important community is and how I can best serve that community. I realised I really feel called to build a like-minded community where we tackle one habit, skill or challenge at a time – together!

So in less than 2 weeks time we will get started together on our first topic and I’ll be bringing in a special guest speaker to run a workshop too. Doors will open officially on the 29th of July – but I’d like to offer early entry to my existing supporters.

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Declutter vs Tidy vs Clean?

It was about 18 months ago that I was listening to a podcast from “A Slob Comes Clean” and for the first time ever I heard someone talk about the physical difference between the actions of cleaning, tidying and decluttering. And it was like a lightbulb went off! I want to tell you a bit about what I have learnt about these activities and how to prepare mentally and physically because I think it is a really really helpful distinction.

First up – tidying. This is what most of us mothers feel like we do all the time. It’s the action of picking things up and putting them back where they belong. Depending where you are in your parenting years and in the process of managing your possession this task can feel super daunting. As much as possible get the owner involved in tidying up. For my girls this looks like reminding them to pack up with blocks when they are done. For a big family in a large house with lots of stuff – this might even look like getting a basket for each person and they are responsible for returning items to their homes from their basket. A collection point for their items per say.

Cleaning – there is a huge difference between being untidy and unclean. Cleaning is the action of physically cleaning the dirt, food, and grime off surfaces. We do this every day when we do the dishes and wipe down the bench. Getting prepared for a DEEP clean might mean you take everything off a surface so you can really get in there with your choice of cleaning products (pro tip – vinegar in water or detergent and water with a rag work really well 😉

Decluttering – when I started the journey of decluttering I’d make a good start and then without meaning to I’d find myself tidying or even just organising a space. Then I tried focusing on walking around the house hunting for things to get rid of. Essentially I was trying to tick a list off. And sooner or later I was really stuck in how to ‘find something’ to get rid of. So when you declutter your intention is to work with a space and choose what stays in that space and get rid of the rest. Try this instead of trying to pick what to get rid of. When I sent an intention to declutter I bring the recycling basket, rubbish bag and donation box close to me and I actually sort items into those destinations as I go.

Unfortunately; while cleaning and tidying when generally make an area look better sometimes decluttering gets worse before it looks better as you will have likely started pulling things out of the nooks and crannies where they were carefully stored. Know that it is OK!

Each day set aside 15 minutes to work on your home and set your intention about what your focus is. If your goal is to remove some of the clutter make sure your intention is to sort through possessions into what is staying and what is going.

I’ve got some exciting news! Coming August 3rd I will be launching a membership that will actually end up replacing most of my existing modules and courses!!!

Over the last months, I’ve really been thinking about how important community is and how I can best serve that community. I realised I really feel called to build a like-minded community where we tackle one habit, skill or challenge at a time – together!

So in less than 2 weeks time we will get started together on our first topic and I’ll be bringing in a special guest speaker to run a workshop too. Doors will open officially on the 29th of July – but I’d like to offer early entry to my existing supporters.

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How to know if you have too much stuff?

If you have followed me for any length of time you know that I absolutely do not subscribe to the thinking that you need bare walls, perfectly styled furniture or to know exactly the amount of items you own. I mean, I think it’s cool that some people CAN create a numbered list of what they own, but that is not what I am about. I don’t think there are any rules for minimalism. And I believe that the second you look to someone else to decide for you how many of any particular item you can own and still be a minimalist is the moment that you stop your journey of discovering what truly brings value, joy, and purpose to your life.

So I’m not here to tell you that you have too much stuff. Or that you can only own 20 DVDs. Or that the kids dressups have to fit in a tote. Or that your books must fit on one shelf. None of that.

I’d like to describe the moment I knew for sure that we had TOO MUCH STUFF – and the moment I decided to start the process of changing that.

Do you know that scene in Star Wars: A New Hope when Luke, Hans and Leia fling themselves down the shoot and end up in the trash compactor. As they stand there the walls begin to move and the room begins to close in around them. THAT scene is what it felt like when I walked into the front door of my house. It was like the very walls started to close in and the weight of my entire home settled on my shoulders. In those days I was a new-ish mum to an 18 month old and I felt like I spent my entire day cleaning and putting things away. Then when I had finally got the house clean I turned around to realise I was terribly behind in washing or everyone was hangry because I hadn’t got to dinner.

That was when I knew we had way too much stuff and I needed to do something about it.

If your home leaves you feeling stressed rather than able to ‘de-stress’; if it leaves you feeling exhausted instead of inspired; or if things are never away because they don’t have homes – then I’m going to go out on a limb and say you probably have too much stuff.

There is a lot of space between having bare basics and holding onto every single item we have ever owned. And its in that space that we find room to learn what we need (and want) to be happy, content, inspired and abundant in out lives.

I don’t count how many possessions we have or have rules about how many books we can own or what sort of aesthetic our home should be styled as. My goal is to create a home that leaves me feeling calm enough that I am inspired to create magic!

If that is your goal to I’d like to share some tips with you. Come along at 10:30am on Wednesday 29th of July as I share 5 tips to Reduce the Overwhelm of the STUFF in your home. I’d love to have you there – just click this link to register (and you will get a copy of the replay if you can’t make it live!)

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